Trade the last-minute interview approach for a real relationship with him.
Trade distant, hands-off fear tactics for some faithful, down-to-earth discipleship.
One of the most terrifying moments of a not-yet-married man’s life is meeting his girlfriend’s father. Part of the problem is trying to understand a father’s role in his daughter’s pursuit of marriage.
The much-anticipated introduction is an unending fountain of humor for friends and family, but it’s more often an occasion for horror for the young man. In today’s ideal scenario, she brings home a guy the whole family can love, and the rest is matrimony. How about if she moved and met her man far away from home?
Anyone who’s tried and failed to get married reads that simplicity with at least a little bit of longing. Wait for the day dad sends her to Minneapolis on a camel? While we can certainly learn about love and marriage from Isaac and Rebekah, I don’t think God intended it to be a manual for getting married in twenty-first-century America.
I do think, though, that we may be facing greater evils in our Christian homes today than handpicking fathers.
The moment is a mountain to overcome in almost any relationship, but I believe it’s a mountain we, as Christians, can capture for the good of the daughter, the suitor, and the father.