While we were growing up, we were told that boys and girls were different.We just weren’t told how different we were when it came to the important stuff like how to effectively communicate with one another, how to connect with them, and how to ultimately respect them.Dating is a two way street and it shouldn’t be entirely left up to the guy to make the first move.
These men want a woman who appreciates him for all that he is—all the way from his love for cowboy hats right down to his morning routine of coffee and a cigarette once he gets out of bed.
These are the things that make him who he is, so don’t try and change it.
People, like myself, born in the 1950’s and early 1960’s were raised with some heavy patriarchal programming, and yet by the late 60’s and 70’s, the women’s liberation and gay rights movements began to dismantle that programming.
And as a woman who predominately dates straight, cisgender men, so far, I notice that these old ideas pop up more commonly, or at least more overtly, for people in my age group than they do for women 30 years younger than me.
For example, one of the biggest areas of programming is the misogynistic idea that a woman’s appearance is her defining power, and that women must compete against each other in a sort-of underlying appearance competition.