“I’m 18 and non-exclusively attracted to boys and girls of all ages (particularly very young ones).
I am the leader of a support group for non-offending pedophiles around my age…
How do these young men and women negotiate that with no viable role models or support network? But the men I met were in their 50s and 60s, and I’d hoped to speak with someone younger, someone still coming to terms with what he was learning about himself.
I asked them if they knew anyone like that, and a few weeks later I received an email.“My name is Adam,” it read.
He was 16 years old, he was a pedophile, and he had to do something about it.
We have a few go-to archetypes when it comes to pedophilia: There is the playground lurker, the chat-room predator, and the monstrous (often religious) authority figure. The defines a pedophile as an individual who “over a period of at least six months” has “recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children.” This person also has to have “acted on these sexual urges, or the sexual urges or fantasies cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty,” and be “at least age 16 years and at least five years older than the child or children” involved.
By the time he reached 16, his sexual interest in kids had become more defined.